Are Out Of Body Experiences Just Myths?
By Chief Procrastinator | March 11, 2010
Astral projection is also known as an out-of-body experience and it is an event that can occur to a great many people at various times. These events will commonly occur during a major trauma although many people report having experienced such events through their own sheer willpower.
It would be this will power manifestation that would be the most commonly known form of astral projection. A number of people have claimed to have had out of body experiences while others make claims about being able to directly perform such astral projection powers. While the basics of these techniques are the same, the power levels can differ from person to person. Of course, there are those that question the validity of such claims.
For centuries, there have been people who have experienced the phenomenon of out of body experiences. Some of them have experienced them during sleep and ignored it, believing that what they saw was a dream. However, most out-of-body experiences are experienced during major trauma such as surgeries.
There have been many accounts of out-of-body experiences occurring during the unfortunate instance of near-death situations. In all of these cases of out-of-body experiences, the individual that has gone through the experience will state he/she was able to see and hear everything that occurred in the room at the time. Such individuals have the ability to describe events that may have occurred while in this state and otherwise would not have realized what had occurred.
Out-of-body experiences have also been known to occur due to the prolonged use of psychedelic or common dissociative drugs. Yet, there are a number of techniques known to induce the common out-of-body experience most have read about. A traditional example of this is the employment of visualization during a relaxed and meditative state of mind. Various studies have occurred recently designed to show that similar experiences to out-of-body experiences might be induced directly through stimulating the brain.
Among the most common forms of all out-of-body experiences is the process of astral projection. During astral projection, a human being develops the ability to leave the body and visit other physical places as well as the world of astral planes or even higher planes of existence.
The renaissance Neoplatonist and Rosicrucian philosophy, as well as many other philosophies, state that an astral body in body created by light and links the “rational soul” and the physical body as an intermediate. It also states that the astral plane is a world created of the same light and exists between Heaven and Earth and is made of the spheres of stars and planets, which are believed to be home to angels, demons, and spirits.
According to many ancient Egyptian beliefs, the soul presents the common ability to hover, or float, outside the body in the “Ka” which is also referred to the subtle body. This has also been known as the astral body. In most common beliefs in astral projection, the astral body is associated with a “silver cord” of psychic energy that is linked to the physical body.
The classical Chinese Taoists took part in an alchemical practice that centered on creating a body of energy via the employment of breathing meditations, pulling energy into an internal section dubbed a “pearl” and then circulating the mysterious pearl through the body to create a powerful base of energy.
During out-of-body experiences, many people have accounted that they willed themselves to leave their bodies. Others have reported that they had found themselves coming out of their bodies as if being pulled, while others state that they didn’t realize that they had left their bodies until after they were already out. Several people have even stated that they wanted to get out of bed and when they tried to reach for the door, they could not touch it. Upon this sensation, they looked in the direction of their bed and realized that they were still lying down, apparently asleep.
Neurologists have long tried to explain such events as being triggered by an errant mismatch of the visual and tactile signals. The great majority of out-of-body experiences have taken place during the duration that exists between REM sleep and the point prior to waking up. Among the many points of time where out-of-body experiences occur, the subject will go into a state commonly known as sleep paralysis. During this time between being asleep and awake, sleep paralysis might potentially continue and dream-like imagery will become mingled with sensations that reach the senses.
However, a great many scientific studies in the field of astral projection and out-of-body experiences have been undertaken over the years. There are many studies showing that out of body experiences do really happen. There are several top research facilities found in many different countries, including the Monroe Institute in Virginia, as well as the Projectarium at the International Academy of Consciousness in Portugal and the Laboratory of Cognitive Neuroscience in Switzerland.
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Vinyl Replacement Windows
By Chief Procrastinator | March 10, 2010
There are a number of vinyl replacement windows articles that I have written before. Each time I consider various aspects of the subject matter. Today I have picked some few brands that I want us to compare. I have not limited this article to only these so do read right to the end.
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It is possible to purchase the Milgard Tuscany vinyl windows for your residential home. I have discovered them to work well apart from that they do not tilt-in especially the single hung one. The result is that it’s difficult when trying to clean them. Besides all that when I considered the other brands like Amerimax, Atrium and Simonton - Milgard was the cheapest of them all.
Next to consider is Anlin. I am of the view that these are okay but I came across someone who had bought them in an attempt to save energy telling me that they didn’t perform as good. Don’t be fooled by the sales person saying these are the most efficient energy saving windows. I guess there are better choices when looking for energy efficient ones. Besides that, these work well, however, they highly priced.
You could also try your luck with Polybau. I personally cannot complain about their charges - when compared to some I come across. The only problem that I have picked up with these is the service offered by the seller. Even though I do not have personal encounter with this but I have read in my blog comments about how the service guys are always late or don’t even show up.
Then there is also Amerimax. They are quite nice. One thing I like about them is that they make the house a quieter and these are really energy efficient. You can go for the double hung ones so you can clean them easily.
Also on the list is Pella - this is a great company with great windows but I am not happy with their Pella ThermaStar. I am of the view that they are low-quality vinyl windows for those people wanting a cheap price.
When thinking about vinyl replacement windows – look at various things not just the price. You need to look at the service, durability, functionality and proximity of the supplier.
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Learn How To Be A Remote Viewer Simply and Easily
By Chief Procrastinator | March 10, 2010
Take a short while to think about what it would be like to be the remote viewer. Do this regardless of whether you have ever considered being a remote viewer before or experienced any kind of remote viewing.
As a remote viewer it is possible to go anywhere you would like to go, see anything you want, at anytime that your desire. You may be content to hang around in the present to check out events that are taking place right now or you may choose to travel to the past to witness some astonishing piece of history. You could also choose to blast into the future to view what life may be like several decades from now. Being a remote viewer makes it possible to turn up some beneficial and beneficial issues, ideas, and solutions.
All of us can try remote viewing and be remote viewers, though most people haven’t put forward the effort needed to learn to use these natural psychic abilities. All of us have more than the five familiar physical senses, but using them requires practice.
Most of the time remote viewing involves viewing a location or area that you know nothing about. The subjects used in research tests that have been done had absolutely no idea of the location they were visiting while in an unconscious or conscious state of mind. Only a coordinate keyword was given to the test subjects to use as a reference.
Although the subjects in remote viewing studies may not have been viewing something familiar to them, you certainly can remotely view a place you already know. Like lucid dreaming and astral projection, remote viewing is classified as a psychic ability and it has been studied by the military and intelligence apparatuses of many nations for its possible applications in espionage. Remote viewing isn’t quite as strange as it may sound at first, since it is an ability possessed by every human being. All it takes is some practice to allow remote viewing and other latent psychic abilities to come to the surface where they can be exercised consciously.
How can you develop your natural ability of remote viewing?
This is an ability which relies on your mental power, so you can train your mind to bring this natural talent to the forefront. A good way to start is doing some research into the techniques others have used to become remote viewers. Guided visualizations and meditation have helped many to get into the proper state of mind for remote viewing.
In order to remote view, you’ll have to allow yourself to relax completely. Practice different meditation and visualization techniques until you find some that work well for you. This will involve time and effort, so be patient and keep your eye on your goal of becoming a remote viewer.
It is necessary to take the time to get well relaxed in order to practice and learn the different kinds of visualization and meditation techniques and discover the one that works well for you. Remember, that all of this will take plenty of effort as well as time so you need to refrain from becoming irritable or impatient with yourself as you are working on becoming a remote viewer.
It is also certainly helpful to be sure to avoid being disturbed when you are trying to be a remote viewer. This is true both during the action itself and during training/practice sessions. Remaining in an environment that is quiet and comfortable is usually the best way to get great results from a remote viewing session.
Every human being has these natural psychic abilities, though the numbers of those who actually work to develop these abilities so that they can be used is comparatively small. With the proper training, these latent abilities can be brought to the surface and learned to the extent that they can be used at will.
Remember, as humans, we all possess these many helpful gifts. However, we may have forgotten them over the course of our evolutionary journey. Thankfully, we can reawaken these natural tools and make them work for us. All it will take is a little concentration and practice and we will be on out way.
Whether you want to learn about your past or your future, you can do so through becoming a remote viewer. It can tell you all you need to know. You just need to develop the ability to feel it.
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The Power of the Mind and How it Changes You
By Chief Procrastinator | March 10, 2010
Years ago society was introduced to a long line of commercials to help teens stay away from drugs. The main goal was to penetrate the subconscious mind and let them know, ‘The mind is a terrible thing to waste.’ It worked and even though the 60s and 70s were the mainstay for drugs, in the eighties those numbers diminished. All because we were able to harness the power of mind, the benefits swelled.
If there is anything we’ve learned over the last five years, it’s about the Law of Attraction. Thanks to a movie called; The Secret, individuals just like yourself have realized that we can manipulate our own minds into creating reality. People really have started to realize how much they can benefit from using the power of mind. But while we want you to use this for the positive aspects, some people never get away from the negative.
In the medical world, this is known as the Placebo Effect; people who are told they’re taking a medicine will get the benefits of that medicine even if they’re given a sugar pill. This happens about 40% of the time and is something clinical trials have to correct for. Similarly, the adage of ‘Mind Over Matter’ holds some credence as well. This is how you’ve seen people think themselves sick, or think themselves well. Mind power is incredible!
Do you need more proof? Okay, well just think about all those days that weren’t the best. How many of them started out bad because you didn’t think it was going to be a good day? It happens all the time and trust us when we say it is not a coincidence. In fact, you need to understand that everything happens for a reason, and it’s all because of your mind.
This thought process works its way into quantum physics. What quantum physics teaches us is that you create the energy that surrounds. Without going into a deep technical answer, the short version is that you create everything around you. In fact, it tells us that the observer is the one that creates matter and energy, which is what your world is made up of today.
Would you believe everything is made of energy? If you do then it’s much easier to understand the power behind the subconscious mind like ESP, telepathy, levitations, and several physic abilities. However, you don’t need to get this deep into it. All you need to do is take advantage of the surrounding energy and use it to change your life.
If you can use the power of the subconscious mind, you can have a wonderful life. However, it all starts with you and the way you train your mind for the future. Understanding the importance that revolves around this matter is only the beginning to your new found success. So where does it all start? How about figuring out where you want to go.
The first thing is to have a goal. Without goals people tend to walk through life without meaning. Seriously, if you don’t have anything to accomplish, then you become stagnate and pretty much in limbo. If you have a goal then you have something to work towards that is attainable over a period of time. It could be a couple days, a week, a month, or even years before you accomplish it. What it comes down to is how big your goal is to accomplish.
One thing we will tell you is it’s not going to be easy. You’ll have hundreds of thoughts racing through your head that are both positive and negative. The only way you’re going to be able to focus on the good things is by using affirmation. If you can focus everything on obtaining your goals, the power of the subconscious mind will take advantage of the situation. Sure it may difficult to grasp at first, but it’s only because it seems so simple.
Just think if you could influence your mind to quit smoking, lose weight, make more money, or by that dream home. They are all great things to think about right? Sure, but don’t let it stop with self-improvement. Maybe you want to take the family on that long needed vacation or just get a new set of tires for your worn out vehicle. Obviously you’re going to have to organize your life a little, but with constant affirmation it will keep you motivated throughout the entire process.
Then, the house of your dreams hits the market. It’s for sale. And because you’ve been planning and focusing on this, you qualify for the mortgage, and the owners like what you’re planning with the home. You close the deal and move in – and everything you’d been focusing on, all that energy, has helped realize your goal.
In all seriousness, you can do this with anything your heart desires. Just remember to think about a small go the first time around and then make it happen. If you can clearly define that goal, you will be amazed at the overall benefits.
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Best Energy Saving Replacement Windows
By Chief Procrastinator | March 8, 2010
The most energy efficient window replacement can be attainable by purchasing some of the brands I will provide below and by hiring a reliable contractor who can help you fit them well. More about this later - for now let me brush over what I thinkto be an energy efficient replacement window.
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What makes the best energy efficient window?
• It must be certified by trustworthy authorities like Energy Star and NFRC, which stands for National Fenestration Rating Counsel.
• It has low argon gas in it.
• Some of them have vinyl frames.
• Some have double pane glass with an Rating (R) value of 2 to 10.
Benefits of these types of windows
• They help reduce heating bills as they are able to trap heat during cold weather.
• Using vinyl frames together with the most energy efficient window replacement provides total efficiency especially if it is made with spectrally selective glass.
• They reflect infrared radiation while allowing more light in. These applies to those that are low-e windows and spectrally selective.
• You can use them to reduce your carbon “footprint”
• Most of them are of high quality and do in fact pay for themselves - if you know what I mean.
Examples of the most energy efficient replacement windows
There are are many of them to look at but you can check them out. There are various suppliers and contractors that can help you find one that is suitable for you. Some window examples include GreenView, Patio Enclosures Comfort Shield, Milgard, Polaris, Okna, Great Lakes, Soft-Lite and Simonton.
Because they save you so much when it comes to heat and lighting costs, energy efficient windows are a good option to have in your home
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The Energies Of The Universe And Manifestation
By Chief Procrastinator | March 8, 2010
When you use manifestation you literally, you have the ability to ‘make things happen.’That’s a little simplistic, of course, but it’s something that’s easy to understand. Simply put, we all have the ability to manifest to at least some degree. Whether or not we use that ability is something else, but we can learn how to use it by working at it.
Some websites suggest that there are foods you can eat to help tap into your own manifestation powers. Commonly known as brain foods, there are certain fatty acids and proteins that can make the brain stronger and help you develop a more attuned mind. Not all experts agree with dietary contributions, but since the foods that are healthy are the ones that feed the brain, you can err on the side of probability.
Let’s say, for example, that you’re sick. Perhaps you’ve been told that your body is sick because it’s ‘all in your mind,’or at least that your mind is as much responsible for your illness as your body is. And maybe you even believe this and decide, for example, that you’re going to get over your cold before that party you want to go to. Did it work? Or, for example, if someone has said to you that you should focus on you want and that you’ll get it, have you done so? And, did you get what you wanted? Chances are, you’ve had that happen you at least a couple of times, and that is indeed you harnessing your own powers of manifestation. Because again, the fact is, we all have intuitive powers, and we all tap into them and use them at least to some extent on a regular basis. Why do we fail to use them and all of the benefits they can provide us on a regular basis, then? Because our minds are so busy processing a lot of useless information.
In essence, you have to ‘feed your mind.’The information you give it to process and focus on is going to help determine what your life is going to be like. If we are always stuck in little, inconsequential details that have nothing to do with our larger purpose, it’s less likely that we’re going to be able to manifest what we want.
The less we give our mind distractions and material that is essentially useless to developing the power of our mind’s process the better we become at things like manifestation. Giving your mind idle issues to contemplate is not developing your power of manifestation. Rather, it is taking away from it. Reading material that helps you tap into your own powers helps direct your mind in that direction. Spending all of your down time developing the next level of a video game gives your mind more clutter.
If you spend all your spare time with gaming, you only feed your mind material for the game. You clog your mind with gaming information rather than tapping the ability to focus and learn how to tap into your natural abilities. On the other hand, if you spend your time reading, learning and practicing, you then feed your mind the information it needs to help you gain and improve your skills of manifestation. It all relates to one another. The more focus you give to it, the more able you will become to tap into its power. The more you tap into its power the better able you are to develop it further.
You can learn to manifest anything you want if you become disciplined enough and learn how to harness the abilities you already have. Once you harness those abilities, you can develop them further with intense and disciplined focus. And if you do this, you’ll find that over time, manifestation will become much easier for you.
Being able to tap into our own mind and grab our own senses becomes a lifestyle, not just the occasional endeavor. We are all able to develop our mind the way we want to but it does require a certain amount of chronic discipline. If it was an overnight process, we would all be able to think our life into a better place.
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Manifestation And Celebrities
By Chief Procrastinator | March 8, 2010
Manifestation is the ability to make things happen. This is the simple explanation, of course; however, it is one we can relate to and work with. We all have some degree of the power of manifestation. We can tap into the powers we already have. We have the ability to work at harnessing this power and becoming more proficient at doing it.
You can find many suggestions online concerning how to increase your power of manifestation. Some experts think that the foods we consume directly influences our intuitive abilities as well as the ability to tap into our senses, while others say that it only requires a heightened sense of awareness.
The power of the mind has only been partially explored. It is capable of many things we do not fully realize at this time. We can do many things and not even realize it is our mind that is making them so. However, many individuals know the basics of manifesting abundance.
In essence, you have to ‘feed your mind.’The information you give it to process and focus on is going to help determine what your life is going to be like. If we are always stuck in little, inconsequential details that have nothing to do with our larger purpose, it’s less likely that we’re going to be able to manifest what we want.
Let’s say, for example, that you’re addicted to video games. How much time do you have to spend on what you really want to do and what you want your larger life purpose to be, or on what you want your life to be like, if you’re always playing video games? And by contrast, if you spend your time focusing on what you really want to do with your life — including thinking about it, researching and finding resources for it, and focusing on how alive you feel when you are ‘tapped into’your life’s purpose, how much different do you think things are going to be? Once you become aware of this skill, the more likely you are to be able to focus on it and enhance it. And the more you can focus on it and enhance it, the more likely you are to be able to use its power to get what you want. A as you continue to work with it, you’ll develop it to a greater and greater degree.
If you spend all your spare time with gaming, you only feed your mind material for the game. You clog your mind with gaming information rather than tapping the ability to focus and learn how to tap into your natural abilities. On the other hand, if you spend your time reading, learning and practicing, you then feed your mind the information it needs to help you gain and improve your skills of manifestation. It all relates to one another. The more focus you give to it, the more able you will become to tap into its power. The more you tap into its power the better able you are to develop it further.
It takes time to clear your mind and tap into your natural internal resources. You cannot just try it for one day and then call it failure if you do not manifest a great job for yourself by the next day. It does not work that way. You need to make a committed effort; you need to incorporate it into your lifestyle.
Being able to tap into our own mind and grab our own senses becomes a lifestyle, not just the occasional endeavor. We are all able to develop our mind the way we want to but it does require a certain amount of chronic discipline. If it was an overnight process, we would all be able to think our life into a better place.
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Have You Had An Out Of Body Experience?
By Chief Procrastinator | March 4, 2010
For hundreds of years, individuals have experienced a state in which their spiritual self, or soul, is freed from their physical body, allowing their spirit to then explore regions of time and space that differ from the plane their physical body is inhabiting. This state is called the out of body experience, sometimes abbreviated as OBE.
Sometimes known as astral projection; feelings of weightlessness, freedom from physical limitations and a sense of being able to see one’s own physical body from a multi-dimensional, external perspective are typical of these experiences.
Those who report having out of body experiences usually do so immediately after going through a traumatic event (either physical, mental, emotional, or a combination of the three), an interaction with drugs, or after intentionally-inducing one through meditation and then a series of specific sequential steps.
Out of body experiences are distinctly not dream events; they differ in that they are conscious states of awareness, often quite vivid, that unfold in real time. Dreams are the concoctions of the subconscious mind and may or may not appear to be real. Individuals who have had out of body experiences typically say that during the state, their senses are heightened and they possess additional levels of awareness beyond their usual physical senses.
Those who report having out of body experiences say they feel as though their spirits or souls assume a form that is separate from their physical bodies. This separate spirit or soul, sometimes called the astral body, is then able to travel to different dimensions, including different regions and different times. Sometimes they even encounter the spirits of loved ones who have passed away and are now on the other side.
It is easy to understand why so many people actively seek out an OBE. They may be searching for otherwise unknowable answers to questions such as ‘what will happen after I die?’ or ‘what is the size of the universe?’ Alternatively, they may simply want to reconnect with family or friends with whom they have unfinished business.
People from all stations in life, from all cultures and of all ages, have out of body experiences. It is important to note this, because some people hesitate for religious reasons to say they have had an OBE. Their fears of religious repercussions are unfounded: tales of these experiences exist throughout history and are are included in various religious scriptures, from old Native American oral traditions to and including the Bible.
Although most people who actively try to have an out of body experience are new age thinkers, the practice actually is an ancient way to strive for personal enlightenment and betterment.
Surprisingly, individuals report traveling outside of their physical bodies with some degree of frequency: about one out of every 15 people has experienced some sort of out of body experience. Such experiences happen to people in almost any situation as well, from sleeping or relaxing to being in the midst of a violent situation such as an accident or a pending accident. The rationale for such a wide spectrum of causality is simply, people are different, and thus respond differently to various situations.
Reports indicate that a vibrating feeling is common in out of body experiences, as is the feeling that the physical body suddenly becomes extremely heavy. Many think that these feelings indicate the separation of the soul or spiritual self from the physical body, thereby enabling the spirit to travel throughout the astral plane.
Some people who are unfamiliar with the OBE concept may be afraid that if the spiritual self separates from the physical body in this way, it may not be able to re-enter the physical body. Experts on the subject suggest, however, that there is a permanent link between a person’s spiritual and physical selves, and that this is especially true for individuals who are sufficiently self-aware to purposefully induce a state of separation. It is not believed that one’s spiritual self can be be trapped outside the physical body, so there is no reason to be afraid to explore the possibilities.
Out of body experiences are more common than you might think. They have been a part of the human experience for hundreds of years and in a variety of different cultures. Having an out of body experience has long been thought to be a way to achieve self-understanding and a means of achieving greater enlightenment for the world around us.
Opportunities for growth are before us. If only we can quiet our minds long enough to permit our spiritual selves the freedom they crave, we can grow in personal insight and advance technology in areas that are far beyond our physical consciousness. Personal study and practice is the path that leads us through the process of unlocking our personal potential and spiritual awakening. That path is before us. We need only take the first step.
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Staying Active After You Retire
By Chief Procrastinator | March 4, 2010
The latest fad for seniors who are retired is to not live the retired life. Instead, retirees are seeking out adventure and a more active lifestyle. With this active life comes healthier minds and bodies. Retirees are now being found on the hiking trails, on biking paths and out jogging. All of this activity is helping to keep seniors active and living longer.
People reaching retirement age are not only getting more active, they are also attempting to keep up with the younger generations as well as advancing technology. Now instead of sitting at home in front of the television all day, retirees are getting outdoors and experiencing what nature has to offer. In fact, this is the best time to be an active senior.
Long gone are the days of adult day care and hanging out at the senior center playing bridge. Seniors today are enjoying adventures outdoors like hiking and camping. Technology is helping these seniors be safe as well. Now with the use of cell phones and gps accessories, seniors can stay in touch with their loved ones as well as contact people in an emergency.
As technology advances, it becomes easier for seniors to use. Companies are designing special computers and cell phones just for seniors, so the technology is easy for them to use. They can now be kept in the loop.
Since activities like boating, hiking and skiing are increasing in popularity with active seniors, there is also an increasing need for equipment. Salomon ski equipment is essential for active seniors along with anyone else interested in the sport. Seniors can now fit in with the younger crowd on the slopes instead of standing out in old ski gear.
Active seniors are also spending their time working with the public and volunteering. Volunteering helps seniors to feel young and useful while assisting others to feel the same. Helping others near their own age helps those who are unable to be quite as active. They can live vicariously through those who are out there having new adventures.
Retirees are finding themselves in much better health now than in previous years. With so many activities available to them, they stay happier and healthier. This also helps to keep the mind and body younger. Seniors will be able to keep up with younger crowd. No more bingo and bridge for these seniors. Now they will be searching out bigger adventures like skydiving. Now they will be able to do more than their younger family members.
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Attitude for Confidence
By Chief Procrastinator | March 4, 2010
At this age I did not have enough respect for myself, I was too concerned what people thought of me and was easily persuaded into doing things and going places that I in didn't want to. After reading some of the books as mentioned above I realised this and asked myself a question: Am I boring? I have lots of interests, theatre, cinema, eating out, chess, football, snooker, golf, horse racing, tennis, music to name a few. By this age I was becoming bored of going out drinking alcohol. I decided to be strong and stated to my friends that I was now only going out drinking once a month. Originally, every Friday and Saturday night people would phone asking me if I was going out, if I declined I was criticised, your so boring for example. My new found attitude, though hard at first to adopt and follow through meant that I didn't really care and I certainly didn't bow to pressure. One particular friend, Phil, was particularly verbally aggressive and demanding, calling me different names. He was seemingly in shock that someone was standing up to him. On one afternoon I fought back and said to him: Whatever you say, whatever you call me, I am not going out tonight, however I will go out with you on Tuesday night if you want to? He agreed to this so I asked him if he wanted a game of snooker, or golf, or a trip to the cinema or theatre. He thought all of these options were boring? I mentioned other interests of mine such as chess, again all of the options I mentioned he didn't find interesting. I said to him: OK, where would you like to go??What about the pub for a few beers?? I laughed at Phil and said: I’m sorry mate you’re the one who is boring not me? I then put the phone down on him for a change.
My attitude was beginning to change for the better. I was becoming harder and stronger mentally. A few years later I met my present fiancee and I soon realised I was a long way off the level I wanted to be. Her name is Sharron and a couple of weeks after we had met she invited me to a night out with some of her friends who she said wanted to meet me. I knew I had to go even though in reality it was the last thing I wanted to do. I was worried what her friends might think of me etc. I did attend and managed to cope, however I was very quiet, felt uncomfortable throughout the evening and felt very nervous. I was glad to get back to the safety of my own home! A couple of weeks later I was invited to meet her parents and immediately I had the same feelings as above and the night passed in a similar way with me having a distinct lack of confidence etc. About a month later Sharron agreed to accompany me to a wedding in Birmingham where I was born. On this day she would meet most of my friends and family for the first time. As we were driving on the motorway I thought she must be a bit nervous. I asked her if she was OK and if she was slightly nervous. She replied: What have I got to be nervous about??Well your meeting my family and friends later. Are you not concerned what they will think of you?? Steve, I don’t care what they think of me. It’s what you think that counts and I know you like me!? This was not a front she was putting on. Suddenly I realised how far I was away from the attitude to life and attitude to people I wanted to have. Sharron has helped me to reach that level. Being around positive people at this stage was very beneficial to me.
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